Being the third wheel sucks, and so does the fact that sometimes, it can feel like you need to prove yourself in every relationship. So, how do you get the guy to not only fall in love with you but be obsessed with everything you are and do?
There is only one place to start—here—with yourself. There is nothing in this world more beautiful than a woman who knows what she wants and has the confidence to show it.
Have you ever looked at a woman in love and wondered how she got it right? Where did she begin? How did she attract the man, let alone keep his attention long enough to make him fall in love with her? We are glad you asked because she started right here.
Know Your Stuff
a) Why Do Men Lose Interest?
This open-ended question has no single right answer, so we have taken the top answers from across the globe to help you find yours:
- You are not one of his priorities.
- There was no intention of having a serious relationship from the start.
3. He wants more time to himself.
4. He feels that you are trying to change him.
5. Sexual activities and behaviour are not as exciting as they used to be.
6. He feels underappreciated.
7. He suffers from Gamophobia, better known as a fear of commitment.
8. He has met somebody else.
The potential reasons as to why guys lose interest are infinite, but more often than not, it comes down to the fact that there really was no reason at all other than having simply lost interest.
b) Driving Him Away: The Do’s and Don’ts
By this point, you should more or less have a better idea as to why he’s not interested. Now, you can take what you know from the list above and attempt to fix these issues with the help of the tips below, or prepare for the future and make a note of the absolute no-nos that are sure to drive him away for good.
The ‘Do’ List
- Keep things slow and steady.
- Communicate openly and honestly.
- Just be yourself.
- Work with each other, not against each other.
- Be confident, not controlling.
- Treat each other as individuals.
- Give him room to breathe.
The ‘Don’t’ List
- Don’t Over-analyze his actions.
- Don’t Make displays of jealousy.
- Don’t Compare him to other men.
- Don’t Turn down his offers to help.
- Don’t Assume that he knows what you are thinking.
- Don’t Throw temper tantrums.
- Don’t Become passive-aggressive.
c) Points of Interest
Some guys are hard to read, and others are oblivious, so there is no set recipe to making sure that his attraction to you is a match to yours or that it will be long-term.
Luckily for us, there is a little something called The Law of Attraction that can be used as an informational guideline if you need it.
So now you have his attention, but how can you tell whether it’s out of attraction to you or something else? Keep an eye out for these signs:
He flirts with you at every opportunity.
You put a smile on his face.
He puts more effort into his appearance.
You catch him staring at you—every part of you.
His voice tends to deepen when he talks to you.
He makes physical contact casually.
He takes on a “power pose” by trying to appear taller.
He is always getting close to you.
He always looks deep into your eyes.
If you read those points and felt a stirring inside, then you know for sure that he is all about you!
Captivate, Enchant and Enthrall
There is something about the chemistry between you that has you waking up with a smile. But is that chemistry enough to turn into something permanent?
The Obsession Formula
Amy North, better known as “The Dating Expert” recently published her latest relationship and dating guide called The Obsession Formula.
Based on the psychology and science of what humans naturally do, this program not only provides a formula for creating that obsession but will also teach you how to be aware of whether or not it is being used on you.
Make It Last
You now have his attention and a formula designed to make him spellbound, but how do you know his interest will stay focused?
Don’t be his mother.
Learn his language of love.
Keep it light and fun.
Take an interest in something he likes.
3. Naughty 9: Texts He Just Can’t Resist
One of the perks of technology is that it provides the perfect opportunity to let him paint his own picture with the words that you write.
If you are looking for a surefire way to elicit a response, there are nine infallible texts that a guy just can’t resist.
And no one could explain these nine irresistible texts better than the life coach personality Amy North.
4. Masculine and Feminine Energy
There is an unmistakable power that energies create, especially when it comes to relationships. Do you know that feeling of unconditional love for someone? That is energy in its purest form.
Masculine and feminine energies have nothing to do with gender but rather refer to the gender of the actual energy inside us.
All humans possess both types of energy but the more dominant energy prefers to bond with its opposite rather than competing against itself.
Here is a more detailed explanation of the divine energies, their characteristics, and powers within a relationship.
5. A Soulmate Connection
When you hear the word ‘soulmate,’ the first thing that comes to mind is your forever person, right? What if you were told that there was more than one soul connection?
In fact, there are 12 of them:
Soul Partners
Designed to specifically support you emotionally or professionally.
Soul Ties
The sense of feeling that this being is in your life for a reason.
Past-Life Soul Mates
Two souls that have shared a significant past life together who meet up again.
Karmic Soul Mates
Designed to bring balance to your life.
Romantic Soul Mates
Souls designed to enter a significant romantic relationship or fall in love, with the possibility of partnering.
Twin Flames
One soul has been split into two bodies.
Companion Soul Mates
Non-romantic souls designed to provide support, love, and encouragement.
Soul Families / Groups
Linked souls that have been grouped similarly to a family tree.
Kindred Spirits
A soul who simply understands you. Although not always soul mates, there is a certain potential to become one.
Soul Contracts
Agreements made on a spiritual level to do certain things in this lifetime.
Soul Teachers
Someone who appears in your life via divine timing, whether it’s in the form of a doctor who helps you to cope with depression or a school teacher who helps you choose a career path.
Soul Crossings
A soul who comes into your life when the timing and circumstances are not conducive to a long-term relationship.
In a Nutshell
You now have the facts and the formulas on how to attract a man, keep his interest, and get him to fall in love with you.
The last and final tip that will seal the deal and evoke true obsession is to stay true to yourself. Know that you are more than enough, just as you are, and he will be sure to see it too.
